Talking to your Teens about Sexually Transmitted Infections

Sometimes it's difficult to see your child beyond the girl-turned-young-woman that she is. In many ways, teens today are growing up faster than ever. They learn about violence and sex through the media and their peers, but they rarely have all the facts. That's why it's so vital for you to talk to your kids about sexually transmitted infections or STIs (previously referred to as STDs back in our day).

Teens especially are the groups most at-risk for contracting a sexually transmitted infection. You can help your kids stay safe by talking to them and sharing some important information about STIs and prevention. Blame is most often placed on inadequate sex education, from parents and from schools focusing largely on abstinence-only programs.

Before you take on this sensitive subject, it's important you know what to say and when to say it.

Timing Is Everything

Don't think it's too late to talk to your kids about STIs. A late talk is better than no talk at all. The preteen years remain the best time to start having these discussions. No matter how old kids are, once they start having questions about sex; know it's a good time to talk about STIs.

Tips for Talking

To make talking about STIs a little easier for both you and your kids:

• Be informed. STIs can be a confusing and frightening subject. Ensure you're updated about STI transmission and prevention.
• Ask what your kids already know about STIs without interrupting or pushing too much. You can talk with them about symptoms, including a change in discharge or vaginal odor which can easily be seen in the mesh of our everyday panties. Encourage your daughter to monitor her discharge and to report any sudden changes to you. This also encourages her to be more aware of her body.
• Kids often already know more than you realize. Parents need to provide accurate information so their children can make the right decisions to protect themselves.
• Encourage your kids to share any fears or concerns.
• Make sure your kids feel in charge by getting their opinions on what you discuss.
• Explain that the only sure way to remain STI-free is to not have sex or intimate contact with anyone outside of a committed, monogamous relationship with another person who has been abstinent themselves or tested and found clean – with abstinence since the time of testing as some STIs remain dormant and surface later down the road.

Finally, answering these questions and others as openly remains the best possible approach. Remember, it's up to you to correct any misinformation your kids may have learned. Always answer questions honestly without being overly dramatic. You want your kids to know that you're there to support and help, not judge.