Psst...Guys! Ways to Effectively Communicate During Her Period

You said what?! You love the women in your life. You may not always understand them, however, especially when hormones are pendulum-swinging from seemingly self-righteous to self-loathing during their monthly period. That said, you may be looking for ways to effectively communicate during her period. Here are a few of the ideas gathered from some of our customers regarding when and how to approach your lady’s language of love during such a time.

1) Karen from San Tan Valley writes, “Tread lightly with topics. We already have a host of emotions going on so approach with caution and consider introducing sentences with a less-offensive approach. ‘I’ statements are good and asking first what our needs may be helps. But ultimately, if a topic that requires deep thought or dialogue that can wait another 5-7 days, consider waiting until then to bring it up” We agree. Unless of course, decisions must be made right away. If so, consider a tactic of sandwiching with an introductory compliment or comment, followed by the questions or request, and ending with a positive note. For example: Honey, thank you for getting the xxxxx arranged for two days from now. I was also thinking that we could xxxxx as it would benefit us in such-and-such way. What are your thoughts?”

2) Secondly, Stephanie from San Diego shares, “During menses, women are already undergoing a great deal of physical demands and fatigue that cannot be rescheduled or pushed aside. Rather than scheduling events or activities that require a great deal of strain on the body, consider this week in particular to be one that honors rest and restoration. Save this timeframe for the in-home projects that can be done at leisure and while sitting comfortably in cozy clothes and a less-taxing environment.” All in favor? Aye.

3) Thirdly, as insight from a male’s perspective would serve well also, Geoffrey, a husband and father of four stated that he has learned to “not take things personally. When my wife is irritated, I realize that she may just be experiencing some internal discomfort or pain. It is neither projection nor rejection of me and the best way I can support her is to just know that it isn’t about me, nor will I ever fully understand what she is experiencing. Over the years, we have learned to hold off on big topics until another time, and most importantly, I have learned not to use terms like ‘monsterating’ in place of menstruating. We laugh about it now, but during that time-of-the-month, it is never funny. Not ten years ago, and still not now.”

4) Lastly, consider acknowledging your lady’s language of love, and upping the ante in those respective areas. If she prefers words of affirmation, inform her verbally of what you admire about her, in any facet. If acts of kindness tip the scale for her, take this week to show an extra effort with regards to taking action that helps her in ways she’s requested or hinted at. This goes for the remaining languages of love, both well-known and maybe even unspoken and unique to your relationship and your woman.

Any deal breakers or lessons learned you have to share? Feel free to comment with your own!